‘Sic gorgiamus allos subjectatos nunc.’ Or What the Addams Family Taught Me about Confidence.
The Addams Family are famous for being creepy and kooky, but they’re also role models for building self-confidence. I mean, you only need look to Gomez, Morticia, and the rest of the clan to believe there’s nothing better than celebrating your own YOUness.
Life Lessons from Gomez and Morticia
Play with trains. Gomez understood that play time is important for both children and adults. It’s cool to hold onto your train set or work on your yo-yo tricks even when you’re a supposed grown-up.
Pursue your own interests. Both Gomez and Morticia used their free time to become more accomplished. You may want to raise roses instead of carnivorous plants - I won’t judge. Personally I love a Mexican butterwort! (Succ Lovers Unite!)
Study languages. Morticia was best known for speaking French, but the happy couple could express themselves in many languages. Sometimes they’d converse in Yiddish, Spanish, or Italian. Expand your vocabulary so you’ll have the right word for any occasion. Currently we have Norwegian, Japanese, Hawaiian and Italian being studied here in Halloween Town - It makes for *interesting* (read - confusing) convos at the dinner table.
Keep romance alive. The chemistry between Gomez and Morticia was a big part of the appeal. A loving family provides a strong foundation for happiness and success.
What About the Rest of The Fam?
Bond with your siblings. Wednesday and Pugsley could always count on each other. They kept each other safe even when they were playing with dynamite and spiders.
Feel comfortable with your size. People sometimes worry about being smaller or bigger than average. Lurch the butler was one of the family despite being almost seven feet tall. He also excelled at his job by instantly producing whatever the family needed.
Enjoy your life. Cousin Itt was covered with hair and had a squeaky voice, but that didn’t stop him from being an absolute charmer. Real beauty comes from within.
Recognise that you are complete. For a creature who was very much a disembodied hand ~ Thing led a remarkably full life. He could walk on his fingers or communicate in Morse code. Remember that when you feel limited. If Thing could find a way ~ you have no excuse!
Stay young at heart. Grandmama and Uncle Fester were two feisty seniors. You may want to take a pass on wresting alligators (you do you an’ all) but even if you’re racking up some miles on the clock, get out there and still enjoy life, the world, your friends… or find a park bench and bicker with a duck. That might just be MY retirement plan there.
Light up a room. Speaking of Uncle Fester, who could forget his light bulb trick? Bear with me ~ I’m not saying for you to join the circus (although?!) You can generate your own energy by tackling challenging projects, teaming up with others and engaging authentically. Wanna be braver in sharing you? Don’t worry, I got you covered HERE!
Addams Family Takeaways
Follow your own fashion sense. Develop your personal style. Wear clothes and accessories that you like. Fuck the rest of that noise! Customise old pieces or buy new and get me to do it HERE!
Make your house a home. Create an environment that is comfortable and enjoyable for you and your family. No matter what that looks like ~ my home is literally Halloween Town and I wouldn’t have it any other way. By all means, consult others for ideas but adapt them to your own lifestyle and preferences.
Just a little selection of the random things lying around my Halloween Town office
3. Welcome guests. People were always dropping in on the Addams Family (and often trying to rush away just as quickly!) At the same time, the family always managed to remain hospitable. Treat your guests warmly even if they’re beatniks or truant officers. If you feel sure of yourself, you can be tolerant of any opposition and open to different points of view.
4. Know your own worth. Today, the Addams Family is more beloved than ever as an example of a healthy and happy family. Assess whether the criticism you receive is valid. If you sincerely believe you’re on the right course, you may well still be headed for success.
Basically ~ let the Addams Family values into your heart.
Have the confidence to be truly you even if you have the only house on the block with a bed of nails and a two-headed faux sea turtle. If it hurts no one ~ the world’s a better place for having more you.
Tx