Fascinating! Please tell me more?
You don’t have to look like a model or have the voice of an angel to be a fascinating person. Everyone you know is fascinating! We all have our stories, sometimes we just have to be a little braver in sharing them.
Whether it’s in person or in a talking sh*t video, you might not have that long to win them over. With limited time, you have to do a little more than just be your albeit glorious self to be the most fascinating person in the [virtual] room. You’ll need to stretch yourself a little bit.
So I threw together a few tips that pull that moment of glory out of your ass:
Look your best. Dress average, and people will assume that you are average. That doesn’t mean spending a fortune - it doesn’t even mean buying anything new at all! It’s just that we’re all peacocks really & we notice those who dress sharply. A perfect haircut catches our eye. Shine your shoes. Be bold in your clothing choices and express your unique style.
Focus on others. If you want people to think you’re fascinating, make everyone around you FEEL fascinating. Making someone feel fantastic about themselves will boost your own self love! Giving them their moment to be the most interesting person in the room, also means you won’t be soon forgotten. Think of yourself as a disco/glitter ball (stay with me here…) Any light that shines on you, you shine back out onto those around you - share it in all directions!
Lead an interesting life. If your life is interesting, and you’re willing to share it, you’ll be seen as interesting too. You don’t have to be well travelled - though it helps. You just need to have experiences unique to you! Pursue interesting hobbies. Find that thing that lights you up! There aren’t too many people that do much beyond working and watching tv. Not only will you be fascinating to others, but you’ll also enjoy your life a lot more, too.
Talk about those things you’re passionate about! When you talk about things that interest you, you have an enthusiasm that’s attractive to people. What interests you that you can share with others? Share your enthusiasm with everyone and notice how well people respond to you. That’s right - geek out bebee!
Be confident. In a wrong-headed sense, nervous people aren’t assumed to be interesting. We’re naturally drawn to confident, charismatic people. Remember, you don’t have to actually be confident - just appear that way!
Read. The more non-fiction you read, the more you know. The more you know, the more opportunities you have to be an interesting person. We like intelligent people that can tell us things we don’t already know. make a habit of reading and learning something new each day.
Maintain some mystery. It’s easier to be interesting if you don’t reveal every detail about your life all at once. Even the people you see daily at work should wonder a little bit about what you do on the weekends. Keep an air of mystery around your personal life.
Be unpredictable. We’re fascinated by people we can’t predict 100%. Be the person that logs into work and announces that you’ve booked a trip to Nepal on a post-pandemic-vacation, or that you spent Saturday at a Goat sanctuary. Who knows? Maybe you’ll shave your head or get a tattoo… *cough-cough* no one knows what you might do.
These tips are just to dip into when you need them… you can be interesting just by being yourself openly and unapologetically. You’re already a fascinating person! However, if you want to be the most interesting person in the room, you’ll have to dial it up. Let the world see the real you. Unleash your inner weirdo - just a little. You’re going to like the way you feel!
Looking forward to cheering you on, bebee!
Tx